It is no secret, like just about every other guy in the world, ever since I was old enough, sex has consumed my mind. At the time I wasn't old enough to understand the difference between good sex, OK sex, bad sex, Great Sex... Sex was sex. And then sex was primarily internet porn, which at the time wasn't nearly as developed as it is now. This was back in the dial up days, where I was "surfing the web" with either an AOL, Compuserve, or Prodigy free trial. I guess at that time, the modems weren't fast enough to even watch videos like you can today. A picture said a thousand words. The only videos were on tapes which some friend would have found in his parents secret hiding spot in the closet. VHS Tapes, not DVDs...
I guess at that time, I assumed all sex was Great porn star sex. With the size and stamina of the porn star guys, and that all girls would take it like porn star girls. After all, porn was basically my handbook, a guide that showed me up close and personal the birds and bees (an analogy I still don't get). Tips on how to give her great sex.
But that was then and this is now. I am no longer a virgin, and I do understand the difference between the varying levels of sex, from bad to GREAT!! And reality set in as far as my sexual performance compared to porn star sex. But in the beginning, even bad sex was sex, so it was great. How to give her great sex wasn't as important. I wasn't even that interested on tips for sex. Not until later did I really learn the difference, and now that I am older, actually care about having great romps in the sack as opposed to a mediocre sprint.
My goals have changed, and I realized how much better Great Sex is compared to bad sex, or even OK sex. And don't get me wrong, OK sex isn't bad, and probably has the highest frequency, but still, when the time is there and the kids (the forget me nots from a hopefully great spin through the sheets because to have kids for a 2 minute quickie is a shame) are away at grandmom's; that is the time for GREAT sex. A night out with wifey, a nice dinner, a couple drinks, a few games of pool, a little dancing, and cap it off with a there is nobody to wake up, I am going to make you scream for your life, position after position, I wish I had this on video moment of glory that if it were anything else you would tell the kids about when they got older.
Well, I also found out the hard way that that wasn't as easy as it sounds either. Even when the kids are away, and you can do what ever you want, it doesn't always work out as planned. You're tired from a long day at work, getting older your sex drive isn't as keen as it once was, and not having sex every day (sometimes multiple times a day) like in the honeymoon years your stamina may have waned a bit from what it once was.
I have been there, done that. But I have also stumbled upon one more secret women have been keeping from us; Male Kegel Exercises. Yes, men can do them too. Just like keeping your other muscles in shape, you can keep your sex muscles (PC muscles), in shape through kegel exercises. You can do them like how women do, by clenching the muscles in your Taint (it ain't your balls, it ain't your ass), holding and releasing. Or I have also found a set that lets you do kegels like a man should, with weights.